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Encourage Decision Making
Filed Under (Dealing with Difficult Questions, Raising the Child) by Footyman on 23-08-2011
I l
ook at the adult world this way – those who succeed in life are those who dare to take the lead and make decisions. Those who hover around and cannot decide, continue hovering around, without making much progress.
And those who DO make decisions, do MAKE MISTAKES. But they MAKE decisions. And they know what they want in life.
Being decisive is also not being impulsive. The difference is that the former encompasses careful consideration while the latter does not.
Our children are growing all the time. Gradually, life challenges require them to make more and more decisions as they grow. I would like to think that most adults do pretty fine, but sadly some actually never grow up, still depending on their aged parents to help make decisions.
One major reason is due to the “well-intentioned parents” syndrome, where parents like us subconsciously shield our children from making decisions in every aspects of their lives, denying them the opportunity to sharpen themselves.
My encouragement to all parents is this, forget about the consequences of wrong decisions. Let our children make wrong decisions while they are young, so that they won’t grow up frozen, not knowing how to be decisive when it matters.



So I said, “Fine, so you’ll pray for me, I pray for Mama, and Mama prays for you.”
Those days, we simply prayed while he lie on his bed and closed his eyes. As he grew older, he started praying in bits and pieces on his own. He also requested that we pray for this issue and that. One funny request I recall was to pray that he won’t grow up! (Of course footywife and I never said “AMEN” to that!)





